So her questions were painless, what is your relationship like with you parents, dating experiences, who is the most influential person in your life and why (I said my mom, should I have said Jesus), what was your childhood like, what are your feelings about the biological parents, how would you describe your life right now (I said good and that I’m content, but I wanted to say I’m a wee bit stressed since this is year 3, blah, blah, blah), and what was the most traumatic time in your life and how did you handle it (um, my dad walking out January 1st of ‘04, ’cause that was one of the things on his New Year’s resolution list, along with being financially stable and getting his teeth fixed)? She was done in 45 min and said once she writes the homestudy she’ll submit it to her supervisor to sign off on then I get a congratulations letter in the mail. But then she said the best part (and twice) that there is a meeting this afternoon and she has submitted my name to be matched with a baby or child. Oh maybe I’ll have grand news by the end of the week. If the child is already on the adoption track we will both have the same social worker, if they are still in foster care and no parental rights have been terminated then we will likely have different social workers. I really didn’t care much after she said she submitted my name to be matched. Now depending on how many children and families are being submitted and what extensive needs the children have I know realistically I may or may not get matched, but to know I’m in the mix feels like deal or no deal odds, and that’s pretty good.
Social Worker Visit #2
My social worker will be dropping by at 9 Pacific time to do her second visit. I’m not sure how long she’ll take or if she’ll do another once through the house (I’ll be making my bed and mopping the bathroom floors just in case). I am hoping and praying and hoping and praying that she’ll have a referral for me. I am so very over the waiting. It’s starting to get really emotionally heart wrenching right now. Friends of mine are due any second with their babies (one it’s her second and the other it’s her third). I think it’s most difficult to know they will be having their baby (and one has had a lot of difficulties with miscarriages and the like) likely before I have mine and I’ve been waiting for 3 years!!! Oh I need to just stop before the tears come back. Anyway, I digress, I will let everyone know as soon as I know something from the SW. Again, hoping and praying and hoping and praying she has wonderful news for me. If not, tomorrow’s goin’ be a crappy day!
License Arrival
WooHoo!!! My foster care license arrived in the mail today as did my stipend checks that cover the cost of my CPR class and my fingerprinting. That is so nice. That will happily go towards my fund. I love with there is some form of progress so now I can call my social worker by Wednesday to schedule her next visit. A simple reminder to inform her that I received my license in the mail and I look forward to our next meeting. “So I can clear my calendar, when did you want to schedule that?” That sounds pushy and nice enough at the same time.
Good News on a Friday
So my social worker responds glowingly to emails. Yeah me! I sent her one a day before she returned from her vacation because I wanted to make sure she received all the paperwork I sent, yadda, yadda, yadda. She responded that she has a great vacation and that she couldn’t schedule my second visit until she received all my paperwork. Although slightly bummed it just lit a fire under me to complete everything. Then I was emailing a friend back and forth and she said the reference letter they sent her was ruined by the rain and she needed a new one, so I emailed the social worker back to let her know to resend it and that I was able to schedule a physical but they only perform them once a month so my appointment isn’t until the 12th of February. And I added a little sad face at the end of my email, but signed off, “I thought you’d like to know, thanks for all your help thusfar.” She then emails me back to say she’ll resend the letter to my friend and she’ll call me in 2-3 weeks to schedule my individual meeting. I’m really excited because I won’t even have my physical done by then. Annnnd I remember when she first met with me that she said there have been many times that she has a child/children matched with the family before their second meeting. Sometimes she’ll surprise the family on their second meeting with a possible match and other times children will already be placed in the home by the time she has her second meeting. I’m hoping someone or two someones files have crossed her desk that she thinks would be perfect for me and now she knows we’ll need to meet sooner than the middle of next month. Wishful thinking perhaps, but who cares, it makes it one happy Friday!
