Sad Adoption, Limbo Adoption, Happy Adoption

I love the intriguing titles….I know, it’s probably just me, so here ya go:

Sad Adoption

The two-year-old little boy in my county that I was pursuing has just been placed on hold, and not for me.  I knew if it wasn’t meant to be then it wouldn’t work out.  He was recently diagnosed as having Autism, and I so wanted something to work in my favor, but hopefully this little guy will be placed with a knowledgeable family that can get him the services that will best benefit him.

Limbo Adoption

So I received a tip (from a friend of a friend of an online friend) about twin boys recently becoming available.  I sent my “Dear Birthmother” letter with some info about me and it looks as though the birthmother is leaning toward a couple, but she’s not ruling anyone out.  She sounds pretty specific in what she is looking for (at least as far as age is concerned), so you never know.  I don’t expect much, but that would be lovely as well.  They were just born last Thursday.

Happy Adoption

I mentioned it before, but my agency is strictly a foster care agency (I wish I would have known sooner).  So I decided to switch to county.  I was told by one social worker that I would likely have to complete the 10-week PRIDE training once again, which I sooooo did not want to do.  Well, turns out, I don’t!  There is an orientation tomorrow (I am so loving the timing of this) and then I complete an application, go through 3 social worker visits or less, since I’m single, and wait for a placement.  I know the timeline is likely another 3 months or so, but nothing has happened in the last 3 months, what’s another 3?!?  This was the best news I have received in a really long time.  I can have that application mailed off by Friday and hopefully by the end of November I can have had at least one of my social worker visits.  I think that is a reasonable goal.  But time will tell.  I may have limited contact until December 1st unless wonderful and amazing things take place.  Here’s to hoping for the best.

The End of Next Week

That is what the SW said.  She needs to review my homestudy and someone else’s and she should know something by the end of next week!  Wow that is so not what I wanted to hear.  I know what’s best for this little guy is what is going to happen, but another week.  Better to know than not I guess.

And completely off topic, my car insurance bill just came in the mail and the all knowing secretary who so knowledgeable informed me that my bill would be X amount happened to be $200 off.  And not in my favor, so excuse me while I pull that out of my a$$.  Or better yet, I’ll just run out back to my non-existent backyard and shake the money tree, I’m sure something will come loose.

No Love For The Agency

I know there was a time when I lovedwas happy with my agency.  Well folks, today is not that day.  In all the adoption related reading I had done I obviously did not get deep enough into the topic of foster care.  Little did I know that there was a difference between an agency being strictly a foster care agency and a foster/adoption agency.  Again, it’s all in the licensing.  The SW from the county I’ve talked with has informed me (of course, can I just say OF COURSE) that my agency is licensed strictly for foster care.  Thankfully, and I am so very grateful, that I have a domestic homestudy already done by an adoption agency that is licensed in my county.  So I do have this, however now the SW is slightly MIA.  I called her yesterday, nothing, and today, I am waiting until I have no interruptions to call again (in approximately an hour).  I’m hoping she will answer and let me know what needs to be done next.  I’m under the impression that I need to meet with her (the county SW) to see if I am a possible match and have the disclosures of parental history including all the medical stuff and the need-to-knows.  Also, as I had wondered, but didn’t know since I want an infant then my best bet is to go with the county. This SW informed me that the county is less likely to place an infant with a county fh so they don’t have to pay the additional amount.  And, when I’m assigned a SW with the county they work as my advocated to know which risk level of placement I’m interested in.  For those not in the know, if I want an infant with a low risk of going to their bio family, my SW would likely match me with that infant so I would have a higher chance of adopting them.  So needless to say, I’m a little emotional, frustrated, upset, irritated, aggravated, and every other synonym for I should have known better, if I would have known what I needed to know.  Grrr.  This system is so dang screwy how do they every expect children to find a permanent home?!?  It seems to me that all agencies should be working for the betterment of the children.  To give them the best in any situation.  So why the heck wouldn’t they tell me at their stupid little orientation that anyone interested in an infant or adoption for that matter would do better elsewhere.  I really need to be more cynical or sceptical or investigative or something because I feel slightly duped and uninformed about everything.  It’s already Friday which is (no matter how you slice it) another week down the drain.  I feel like my child(ren) are out there, somewhere, just getting older waiting for a home to call their home and a family and a stable environment and I’m sitting her with all of that and no child(ren).  It’s just a frustrating situation.  I thought this week would be great and it turned out informative and not great.  I’m just hoping this weekend ushers in some change and/or progress.  Also I don’t want to leave my foster agency yet to switch to county, because I will have to take their 10-week training class, then of course there are more fingerprints, SW visits and all of that fun (insert extreme sarcasm when reading the word fun).  Well that’s about enough of my venting for today.  Or at least until I talk with the county SW.