Korbin is laying next too me in a toddler slumber, but just a few hours ago I said, there is something on your nose. he said, it’s a buger. I need go to doctor…to the buger doctor. Apparently he had a nostril issue that could only be resolved by some unknown ‘buger doctor.’ This kid is a hoot. I love him more each day!
What a Day!
So I’m sure everyone has heard the Michael Jackson and Farrah Fawcett news. How crazy is life sometimes?!? For me, sad things happen all the time, but this surely is wack-a-doo news. And the timing, both on the same day, that is so very strange.
A little Scary
Korbin had his two-year-old check up on Tuesday and the doctor thought he heard a heart murmur. I know a lot of things can contribute to it (a cough, running around, asthma, a fever), but I’m totally stressing about this. We have a recheck in two weeks to see if it’s still seems there and if it does we’ll have to go to a pediatric cardiologist and go from there. I am so hoping it’s nothing. I just want my baby healthy and happy and, quite honestly, fine. I don’t want him sad or hurting or struggling, and this has me so concerned. These next two weeks need to just fly by ’cause I’m a stressin’! off to bed now to make six hours go by really fast.
It takes a two-year-old
So during dinner Korbin sees two photos of my grandpa hanging on the wall. (He started in the two’s room today-his bday is tomorrow so he thinks he’s such the big kid and he’s been talking in longer sentences.)
Here’s our convo:
K-who’s that mamma?
M-that’s my grandpa. He grammy’s dad.
K-oh, your mom.
M-yes, he’s grammy’s dad. He got really old and sick and he’s not here anymore.
K-oooh he didn’t drink his juice. (Said very matter of factly.)
M-really, he got sick because he didn’t drink his juice?
K-yeah, sure, he go to doctor and get medicine and drink his juice.
M-then he would have been fine?
K-yeah. he got a cough or he fall down?
M-actually he fell down.
K-yeah, sure, he go to doctor and get medicine for that.
Apparently it takes a toddler to solve our medical issues now as well.
Summertime and the living’s easy.
Work, arg, it’s been so stressful and overwhelming, but Korbin has been a dream. At least at the moment since he’s been asleep for a few hours. He is growing like a weed and I’m near tears at the thought of him turning two next Thursday. I’m taking Thursday and Friday off to have a potty training weekend before he moves to the two’s room that can actually facilitate his needing to go. The toddler room he’s in now has no toilets in the room so if the situation isn’t right, they just can’t take him. It’s so frustrating, but the countdown begins. We’ll try this weekend in ‘ummerwares’, as he calls them, and we’ll see how he does. I’ve had him without diapers for 3-4 hour burts at a time and he does okay (I’ve done it a whole 3 times so far, I’m really scared). I think he’ll be okay since his language is there.
So my question of the week is: How do I get a passport for Korbin? I was told his birth certificate will take a YEAR to arrive and that I can fight for his social security card, so I’ll check it out next week. I would rather do the leg work by phone instead of having a potty training boy waiting in line for hours. That is truly an accident waiting to happen. Iwant to travel out of the country and that’s so not an option without a passport.
I’ll check in to give an update on pot-pot (as he calls the potty), and the whole passport, ss card thing. Have a grand evening!
It’s Official
Today at 1:30 pm we (Korbin, me, and my mom) met with the judge and he decreed it in the best interest of the child to proceed with the adoption. I gave way to tears it was so neat to hear him say that. He asked me three questions (I said yes, and really don’t remember what they are). he then gave Korbin a stuffed lion and we took a picture and were on our way. What a wonderful and emencely emotional day. Such a huge step toward forever that has taken me years. I am so happy to be Korbin’s mom. I will post pictures as soon as my eyes clear up and I can see straight.
For everyone still in the waiting game…keep up your endurance and faith. The end is much sweeter than the beginning.
Suprise Shower
What a week it has been! It has flown by and ended today with great excitement and surprise when the other directors at a meeting had a adoption finalization party for me. It started out as a regular meeting (except after I slephed my stuff in there I saw a card with my name on it next to a cake and then noticed gifties being stacked on a table), it ended up being the beginnings of a very boring meeting, a free lunch, and a surprise party for me/Korbin. How fun. The other directors got him so much nice stuff. Tons of toys, a few outfits, some books, a lot of gift cards and the sweetest cards. It was completely unexpected and I think it’s just now hitting me and it’s still a little emotional. How so very sweet for a group of 25 (once) strangers, who I only meet with once a month or so for group meetings and they did all this. Can you tell, I’m really shocked. Now I have to get some more thank you cards done. (These always take me forever!) I came home and he was so surprised. He saw all the bags and boxes and said, “Oh momma, what’s that?” Too cute!
Still no word from the social worker. So grrrr….cause we need to move closer to my work, which is in a different county, but we are waiting until they get all their ducks in a row, so to speak. On an awesome note I have received all his state payments and all his new information that comes say Korbin (Our Last Name). So cool to see that in print. I just want all the official stuff to be done so we can move on.
Updates to follow.
Still waiting
So it’s a good wait. I just want to have the finalization date, yet, here we wait. The SW is still new at this, so everything takes a little bit longer as she double checks with a more senor SW on all her paperwork before subitting it to the courts and such. So I will continue to keep everyone posted. Thinking happy (and speedy) thoughts!
The 7th was a good day!
So it’s official. I went to the social workers building/meeting area and signed all the legal documentation for adopting Korbin Elias (insert our last name here). His social worker ‘S’ will submit the forms to the court on the 15th of this month and then, best case scenario she could receive our finilization date right then and there. The other social worker ‘M’ said she just filed paperwork last week and received an April 10th finalization date. Wow, that’s really quick. ‘M’ would be surprised if we had to wait until the end of this month. The appointments are always on a Monday or Friday and ‘S’ doesn’t work on Friday so it will definately be a Monday. Maybe the 27th will be our date. That would be splendid. I was kind of bummed though, there wasn’t any paperwork or medical history from his bio’s. I really wanted to be able to have that to give to him so he could have a window on the family that created him. Oh well, sometimes you don’t always get what you want. I’m just so happy to be able to keep him forever and watch him grow into a (hopefully), competent adult.
Here are some photos from our exciting afternoon. Oh, by the way, it only took 30 minutes to sign this heap and stack of papers. Also, Korbin was too funny. He wanted a pen and paper so he could sign everytime I did. Too cute.
I'm really focused and Korbin's 'on edge'
Here I am actually signing the paperwork. I love this photo!
